Are you a giver or taker?
Most people think that they are givers, however most really are not. Here is a few quick questions that if you answer them honestly will tell you who you are.
1) When someone gives you something, a gift or a compliment, do you think you have to reciprocate or do you just thank them and move on?
2) In the middle of your day, when you are at your busiest, is your spouse or significant other ever on your mind?
3) Do you feel as though you are entitled to be taken care of and pampered?
4) Do you ever ask yourself, what can I do to make another person happy or satisfied?
5) Do you ask yourself, what can that other person do to make you satisfied?
6) Have you ever sent a simple text to the person in your life, “Just wanted to say hello” and expect nothing back?
7) Have you ever surprised another person (throwing a party in their honor, drawing a bath, fixing dinner, etc) and gotten satisfaction from just their response? And expect nothing in return?
8) Are you the first one or the last one to eat at the table?
9) If there is only enough food for one of you, do you fight over it or do you just give it to your companion or friend because you feel as though their needs are if not as important as yours, they are more important than yours?
Now, I am not referring to parent to child relationship, but I am referring to husband to wife or boyfriend to girlfriend. I have asked a number of older aged couples these questions and I have found out that those that have been married a long time (30+ years) are both givers in their relationships.
What are you? Be honest with yourself.
Wednesday, November 19, 2014
#14 You are always on a diet
You’re on a diet all the time
Webster defines diets as a special course of food to which one restricts oneself, either to lose weight or for medical reasons. Here are some known facts about dieting;
1) Diets do not work in the long term
2) Diets only restrict you from eating certain foods that ultimately you will end up eating again and gaining all the weight you had lost while on that diet.
3) Any diet you try and sustain will only lead you to ruin
4) America has more diets than the rest of the world and yet we are one of the fattest places to live
5) What works for one person doesn’t necessarily mean it will work for another
6) By stopping your dieting and now making your eating a life style your body will thank you and work much more efficiently
Imagine if your employer told you that you were going to get paid but never told you the day or time that would happen. Now imagine that same employer paying you on a specific day the first month but then every month after changing that date without telling you. What would you do with the money he gives you when you get it? That’s right, you would deposit it right away in the bank and not spend much of it because you really would never know when you will get more. Well think of you as the employer and your body as the employee. The food you eat is the reward that your body needs to keep going. Now go on that diet and stay on a diet. How do you think your body will react? Feel?
Enough said…
Webster defines diets as a special course of food to which one restricts oneself, either to lose weight or for medical reasons. Here are some known facts about dieting;
1) Diets do not work in the long term
2) Diets only restrict you from eating certain foods that ultimately you will end up eating again and gaining all the weight you had lost while on that diet.
3) Any diet you try and sustain will only lead you to ruin
4) America has more diets than the rest of the world and yet we are one of the fattest places to live
5) What works for one person doesn’t necessarily mean it will work for another
6) By stopping your dieting and now making your eating a life style your body will thank you and work much more efficiently
Imagine if your employer told you that you were going to get paid but never told you the day or time that would happen. Now imagine that same employer paying you on a specific day the first month but then every month after changing that date without telling you. What would you do with the money he gives you when you get it? That’s right, you would deposit it right away in the bank and not spend much of it because you really would never know when you will get more. Well think of you as the employer and your body as the employee. The food you eat is the reward that your body needs to keep going. Now go on that diet and stay on a diet. How do you think your body will react? Feel?
Enough said…
Tuesday, November 18, 2014
Wellness
Wellness
Wellness, one of those words that, well, has such a broad definition. Webster defines it as; the quality or state of being healthy in body and mind, especially as the result of deliberate effort or an approach to healthcare that emphasizes preventing illness and prolonging life, as opposed to emphasizing treating diseases.
I like the second definition because it emphasizes a pro-active approach. But do we really understand what is meant when you say wellness? Most people think sub-consciously that if they are in a wellness program that they are getting healthy or are already healthy, even though that have not changed a thing about their dietary habits or activity.
Health insurance companies get it though. In all their research they have concluded that people that take care of themselves have fewer incidences of major claims. In their research they have concluded that these people tend to have less sick days and fewer workers comp claims. Insurance companies are beginning to get it so much that some are even paying their insureds to go to gyms and work out. Here is the kicker though, some people are so lazy that they choose not to participate in their companies wellness programs. They would rather get sick and have the insurance company pay for that than for them to work out hard so that they can play even harder.
I look at it this way, if an insurance company told me that they would be paying for me to work out, I would make it a priority. I only see an up-side for both parties. First off I am getting paid to have fun and secondly the insurance company is collecting more from me than they are spending out. As an example, this year I believe the insurance company only spent $300 on me and that was because I got my annual physical. Now take into consideration a single premium of $150 a month which is $1800 a year and then take into consideration the $20 per month they gave me for working out, they still net $1250 for the year. Now I know that sounds really simple but I look at it this way, for the year they had my money for them to give me back $550, I win also.
Now take into consideration that some people have their companies pay for most if not all of their health care, however, the insurance company will only reimburse the member, which is a clear $240 a year (at least) given to you just to play after work. REALLY! Why aren’t more people taking advantage of this? The answer… WE’RE LAZY!
In this next year, let’s try and get off our butts and get in the game of wellness and get in better shape. It could benefit you physically and monetarily. Think about it.
Wellness, one of those words that, well, has such a broad definition. Webster defines it as; the quality or state of being healthy in body and mind, especially as the result of deliberate effort or an approach to healthcare that emphasizes preventing illness and prolonging life, as opposed to emphasizing treating diseases.
I like the second definition because it emphasizes a pro-active approach. But do we really understand what is meant when you say wellness? Most people think sub-consciously that if they are in a wellness program that they are getting healthy or are already healthy, even though that have not changed a thing about their dietary habits or activity.
Health insurance companies get it though. In all their research they have concluded that people that take care of themselves have fewer incidences of major claims. In their research they have concluded that these people tend to have less sick days and fewer workers comp claims. Insurance companies are beginning to get it so much that some are even paying their insureds to go to gyms and work out. Here is the kicker though, some people are so lazy that they choose not to participate in their companies wellness programs. They would rather get sick and have the insurance company pay for that than for them to work out hard so that they can play even harder.
I look at it this way, if an insurance company told me that they would be paying for me to work out, I would make it a priority. I only see an up-side for both parties. First off I am getting paid to have fun and secondly the insurance company is collecting more from me than they are spending out. As an example, this year I believe the insurance company only spent $300 on me and that was because I got my annual physical. Now take into consideration a single premium of $150 a month which is $1800 a year and then take into consideration the $20 per month they gave me for working out, they still net $1250 for the year. Now I know that sounds really simple but I look at it this way, for the year they had my money for them to give me back $550, I win also.
Now take into consideration that some people have their companies pay for most if not all of their health care, however, the insurance company will only reimburse the member, which is a clear $240 a year (at least) given to you just to play after work. REALLY! Why aren’t more people taking advantage of this? The answer… WE’RE LAZY!
In this next year, let’s try and get off our butts and get in the game of wellness and get in better shape. It could benefit you physically and monetarily. Think about it.
Thursday, November 6, 2014
Time to think about next year!!!!!!
So we are quickly approaching the end of the year and the question is have you achieved the fitness goal you told yourself you wanted to achieve by this time? If not, why not?
For most it is really because you lost your focus and you went back to your old way of doing things. For others it is because you did not have the strength to quit your old habits and still for some it was a choice that you made to follow your friends instead of having them follow you.
Now, what is going to make next year different? What are you going to do that will change your end of year outcome? For most, you will start out real strong and focused but then fizz out somewhere around March and others might make it till end of May before falling off the wagon. So, the question still remains… what will make your next year different than your previous years.
The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different result every time. Now here is a very profound thought, maybe next year you do something different and maybe there might be a different result. Or better yet just be honest with yourself, really honest with yourself and don’t do anything different and don’t get upset at the lack of results you will get.
So here are some tips that I want to pass onto you that may, no will, piss some people off but maybe you need to get mad before you will make some real changes in your life.
1) If you have a real fat stomach and you are sick of seeing it and not your feet or other parts of your anatomy then stop drinking those beers and mixed drinks. Don’t lie to yourself; yes even one drink leaves a mark. Now multiply that one drink over years and you see how all that adds up. Or stop eating late night snacks then going to bed. Food is fuel and we all eat like we are going to run a ultramarathon tomorrow when in essence we are going to sit at are desks and watch Facebook, I mean work. Most Americans eat the majority of their food after work and at night. This is bad because at that time you are more at rest than you are at motion, so all that food will do is sit and be stored in those areas of your body that you don’t want it to be stored in.
2) If you have fat hips or legs, lady’s unless you just had a baby (up to 3 months ago), stop blaming your kids for your lack of control and out-of-shapeness (an Ellis word). So what your little darlings are playing sports and you have to get them to their practices, do you have to sit there and watch them run around for hours? Hey why not get up off your butts and do some exercise yourself. Give yourself 30 minutes after you drop them off. I doubt they will miss you much and then guess what… you will still have time to socialize with your other friends who are thinking that they should also be exercising. I love dropping off my kids at their practices and then parking my car and while they are exercising and learning their sport I too am exercising and helping my body work much more efficiently. I remember once while my son was at soccer practice I told myself that I would run around the track until his practice was almost over. His coach went up to my son and told him that he was impressed with the fact that I could do so many wind sprints. He told him that it motivated the team to work harder. Hey it motivated the team to work harder. HELLO!!!!! Instead of sitting there for hours not really talking about much of any importance… GET UP AND GET GOING!!!!!! Or you can sit there and talk about snacks after the practice, the decision is your.
3) If you have II diabetes and your doctor has put you on medications, please note, medications will not cure you. I will repeat. Medications don’t cure you. They will only artificially keep your body in an order where it can survive. Oh you don’t believe me? Then stop taking the medications. If you really want to get off those meds, then really change your life habits. If you choose not to change your life habits then stop complaining and take your pills every day.
4) Don’t go to a gym and speak to a personal trainer all emotional. The next day you will just get up and begin to second guess yourself and not give a full effort. Get thru the emotion and meet up with your trainer with a plan of what you want to see happen and then once you give you’re your goals, shut up and listen. If you begin to second guess them, find another trainer and don’t stress them out.
Well, here are my first suggestions and there will be more over the next several weeks. Enjoy your day.
For most it is really because you lost your focus and you went back to your old way of doing things. For others it is because you did not have the strength to quit your old habits and still for some it was a choice that you made to follow your friends instead of having them follow you.
Now, what is going to make next year different? What are you going to do that will change your end of year outcome? For most, you will start out real strong and focused but then fizz out somewhere around March and others might make it till end of May before falling off the wagon. So, the question still remains… what will make your next year different than your previous years.
The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different result every time. Now here is a very profound thought, maybe next year you do something different and maybe there might be a different result. Or better yet just be honest with yourself, really honest with yourself and don’t do anything different and don’t get upset at the lack of results you will get.
So here are some tips that I want to pass onto you that may, no will, piss some people off but maybe you need to get mad before you will make some real changes in your life.
1) If you have a real fat stomach and you are sick of seeing it and not your feet or other parts of your anatomy then stop drinking those beers and mixed drinks. Don’t lie to yourself; yes even one drink leaves a mark. Now multiply that one drink over years and you see how all that adds up. Or stop eating late night snacks then going to bed. Food is fuel and we all eat like we are going to run a ultramarathon tomorrow when in essence we are going to sit at are desks and watch Facebook, I mean work. Most Americans eat the majority of their food after work and at night. This is bad because at that time you are more at rest than you are at motion, so all that food will do is sit and be stored in those areas of your body that you don’t want it to be stored in.
2) If you have fat hips or legs, lady’s unless you just had a baby (up to 3 months ago), stop blaming your kids for your lack of control and out-of-shapeness (an Ellis word). So what your little darlings are playing sports and you have to get them to their practices, do you have to sit there and watch them run around for hours? Hey why not get up off your butts and do some exercise yourself. Give yourself 30 minutes after you drop them off. I doubt they will miss you much and then guess what… you will still have time to socialize with your other friends who are thinking that they should also be exercising. I love dropping off my kids at their practices and then parking my car and while they are exercising and learning their sport I too am exercising and helping my body work much more efficiently. I remember once while my son was at soccer practice I told myself that I would run around the track until his practice was almost over. His coach went up to my son and told him that he was impressed with the fact that I could do so many wind sprints. He told him that it motivated the team to work harder. Hey it motivated the team to work harder. HELLO!!!!! Instead of sitting there for hours not really talking about much of any importance… GET UP AND GET GOING!!!!!! Or you can sit there and talk about snacks after the practice, the decision is your.
3) If you have II diabetes and your doctor has put you on medications, please note, medications will not cure you. I will repeat. Medications don’t cure you. They will only artificially keep your body in an order where it can survive. Oh you don’t believe me? Then stop taking the medications. If you really want to get off those meds, then really change your life habits. If you choose not to change your life habits then stop complaining and take your pills every day.
4) Don’t go to a gym and speak to a personal trainer all emotional. The next day you will just get up and begin to second guess yourself and not give a full effort. Get thru the emotion and meet up with your trainer with a plan of what you want to see happen and then once you give you’re your goals, shut up and listen. If you begin to second guess them, find another trainer and don’t stress them out.
Well, here are my first suggestions and there will be more over the next several weeks. Enjoy your day.
Saturday, October 11, 2014
The final equation
Just the other day I had someone come into my office and tell me that due to the fact that a specific weight loss clinic was cancelling their Wednesday class and moving it to Thursdays, they were not going to be able to make Thursdays exercising anymore. I thought about that and after knocking it around in my head I want to share my response with you all.
My question to her was, “If I understand you proper, do to the fact that _____ has changed their hours of operations because of lack of participation, you feel as though you need to switch your exercise regiment to compensate for the change in their schedule. Do I have that right?” and she stated that I was right? So I asked her the following:
“What was the initial purpose for joining that organization and what purpose does it serve now?” Her answer was as follows:
“They have taught me how to eat and in proper portion sizes and for the past several years I have taken those lessons and applied them to my life. Now they are just more of a support group but I seem to be the only one going lately.”
Then there was silence in the room and she looked at me waiting for my response. It must have been quite for several seconds and then I stated, “Well then, let me ask you a question. What is the purpose of food? What does it do for us?” She answered the question right by stating that food is a fuel that gives us the energy to do what we do. Then I stated, “So can I say that not eating is out of the question?” (Laughter). “We know that if we don’t eat we will die so we need food, however, the missing part of the equation for so many is not as much the food as it is with what we do with the fuel we have consumed. Most do nothing but just consume more. They will eat and then think that if they eat ‘healthier’ (whatever that means) they will ultimately lose weight. Regardless if we eat healthier or not it won’t matter. It is still fuel and the body will just save it if not used. Are you getting my drift?”
She thought about it for a second and then agreed.
Guys, we have the equation wrong on so many levels. The food we eat will not make us thinner or in better shape. However the activity we do daily will. The food we consume will only give use the fire we need to get going. The activity we do will burn the food we have consumed. For my math majors out there if:
X= proper food
Y=proper activity
Z= healthy living
Then X-Y=Z. Look at it this way, for us to have healthy living “Z” has to always equal “0”. If we are trying to lose weight then we need to increase “Y” and decrease “X” so that the final number still equals zero. If we increase “X” then we will need to increase “Y” to counter act the effects of “X”. Are you getting it yet? Once you do, all the eating sensation programs in the world will not matter. My next blog will be on #16 of why we cannot lose weight and it is we don’t eat 3 square meals a day.
My question to her was, “If I understand you proper, do to the fact that _____ has changed their hours of operations because of lack of participation, you feel as though you need to switch your exercise regiment to compensate for the change in their schedule. Do I have that right?” and she stated that I was right? So I asked her the following:
“What was the initial purpose for joining that organization and what purpose does it serve now?” Her answer was as follows:
“They have taught me how to eat and in proper portion sizes and for the past several years I have taken those lessons and applied them to my life. Now they are just more of a support group but I seem to be the only one going lately.”
Then there was silence in the room and she looked at me waiting for my response. It must have been quite for several seconds and then I stated, “Well then, let me ask you a question. What is the purpose of food? What does it do for us?” She answered the question right by stating that food is a fuel that gives us the energy to do what we do. Then I stated, “So can I say that not eating is out of the question?” (Laughter). “We know that if we don’t eat we will die so we need food, however, the missing part of the equation for so many is not as much the food as it is with what we do with the fuel we have consumed. Most do nothing but just consume more. They will eat and then think that if they eat ‘healthier’ (whatever that means) they will ultimately lose weight. Regardless if we eat healthier or not it won’t matter. It is still fuel and the body will just save it if not used. Are you getting my drift?”
She thought about it for a second and then agreed.
Guys, we have the equation wrong on so many levels. The food we eat will not make us thinner or in better shape. However the activity we do daily will. The food we consume will only give use the fire we need to get going. The activity we do will burn the food we have consumed. For my math majors out there if:
X= proper food
Y=proper activity
Z= healthy living
Then X-Y=Z. Look at it this way, for us to have healthy living “Z” has to always equal “0”. If we are trying to lose weight then we need to increase “Y” and decrease “X” so that the final number still equals zero. If we increase “X” then we will need to increase “Y” to counter act the effects of “X”. Are you getting it yet? Once you do, all the eating sensation programs in the world will not matter. My next blog will be on #16 of why we cannot lose weight and it is we don’t eat 3 square meals a day.
Tuesday, September 23, 2014
#12 You hang around overweight people
Well does this make sense? Who we hang around complement who we are or want to be. If we are looking to lose weight, why would we hang around people who may not have your same goals in mind? If a person wants to become a world class sprinter, do they hang around high school distance runners? If you want to get fit and trim, why hang around people who are out of shape and overweight?
When someone wants to make lifestyle changes, believe it or not, there is one of the elements of change that is hard to break, our old friendships. Unless they have been pushing you to change, as you achieve your goals you may find yourself distancing away from those friends. If this doesn’t happen, even as strong as we think we are, they will wear us down and we will lose our focus. So, if we are trying to lose weight or get in better shape, find some people that have our same similar goals and hang out with them and watch what happens.
Sunday, September 14, 2014
Three Special People
September of 2004 something happened in the town of Oconomowoc, Parkers Place opened its doors at 125 North Fowler Street. Here I was in a new city and the people did not know me or what I was about. I needed to find some good people and fast to get my business going. Then one day while I was sitting in my office a gentleman comes in and introduces himself and states to me that his wife was looking and that she had been in fitness for a while. After all the information he gave me about her, was really stoked to meet her. A few days later she came walking in and we must have talked for hours.
I have always considered myself a judge of good character and when I met Joni Boelkow I knew from that moment that she would be the perfect person for Parkers Place. She is friendly and caring. She goes the extra mile and is very loyal to those she cares about. She has a great sense of humor and very hard working. She has had a lot of life experiences that, when I think about, it humbles me because of her attitude towards life. She is a strong Christian woman with great values. Her knowledge in senior fitness is second to none and it shows by her following. To this day she still has the same people as she did 10 years ago. Here is the kicker… she has added more people to her Monday thru Wednesday Senior classes. She is one of a kind and she is very special to me. I could not run my business without her.
Then there is Tony Hilbert. I met tony just as he was entering High School. I remember him coming into Parkers Place and asking me for a job. I told him no at first because he was so young and I was looking for responsible people. But he kept insisting that I hire him. Finally, to get him off my back, I told him that I needed a note from his mother. I remember him leaving and I thought I would never see him again. Well I was wrong. 30 minutes later here he comes walking in with a note that he stated to me was from his mother. I did not believe him at first but then I locked outside and there she was waiting for him in the car. Well ten years later, he is my weekend man. I have all the faith and trust in Tony’s abilities. He is by far the most intelligent man I know and I respect his loyalty and faithfulness to Parkers Place.
Finally there is Mark Skumatz. At the same time that I met Joni, I met Mark. I remember having a conversation with him and his wife about the prospects of him joining me here. He told me that he always wanted to do something like this for a living. I was skeptical at first but I decided to give him a chance. It was the best move I made. Mark is by far the most loyal, most friendly person I know. He exemplifies everything an Eagle Scout is supposed to. He is very honest and hardworking. People love him and he is well respected in the community. He cares for Parkers Place I think even more than I do sometimes. When I am having a bad day he knows just how to motivate me to get out of my slump. When I just want to give up he knows just what to say or do to get me back on the right track. He cares for the members and is willing to do whatever is necessary for their ultimate fitness success.
These three people are my pride and joy. I am glad we met and I am glad that, after 10 years, we all still work together. They truly are Parkers Place. Thanks guys!!!!!!!!
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